Have you ever wondered why a narcissist and empath are attracted to one another and end up together? I suppose there are a myriad of reasons. . . opposites attract, a need to learn lessons, falling into the charm trap, and so on.
Energetically the opposites attract theory makes sense. When comparing the energetic tendency of two energy centers we all are familiar with, the heart chakra and the solar plexus, they truly are opposite in disposition with these personality types. The narcissist presents with a huge, overactive, congested solar plexus and a small heart chakra while the empath has a small solar plexus and a huge heart chakra.
We can all guess what emotions and characteristics the heart chakra embodies. Love, kindness, generosity, caring, empathy, concern, sweetness, compassion, happiness, and the like, are produced through the heart center. The solar plexus is the chakra that produces both positive and negative lower emotions and characteristics. Anger, resentment, fear, irritation, anxiety, selfishness, aggressiveness and conceitedness are some of the negative emotions generated through the solar plexus while courage, confidence, perseverance, strength, ambition, self-worth and self-esteem are the positive qualities produced.
The huge, overactive solar plexus of the narcissist explains why they are quick to explode and easily triggered. Their solar plexus is like an overinflated balloon. The lightest trigger will pop it and a defensive explosion will blanket anyone in the vicinity. All that lower vibrational, emotional energy is released on the person in their path.
Now an empath on the other hand has the opposite energetic disposition when it comes to the heart chakra and solar plexus. Their heart center is huge and the solar plexus is small or underactive. That type of personality tends to have a big heart, is very caring, kind, generous and compassionate. These are all qualities reflective of a large heart chakra, while the solar plexus is the center for not only lower emotions but also characteristics such as selfishness, conceitedness and determines self-worth, self-esteem, courage and confidence. The solar plexus aids in the ability to set boundaries and assertiveness. Empaths are generally selfless and think of others first, usually lacking confidence and courage. They tend to not be assertive and need to work on setting boundaries. Their self-esteem and self-worth may be low. Unlike narcissists who are conceited, arrogant, selfish, pushy, overly assertive, have inflated egos and lack empathy, caring, kindness, generosity, concern and compassion. They will insincerely exhibit heart-centered qualities only to manipulate or if they believe there is something they can gain from it.
Can you see the difference? Do you see the polarity? They truly are opposites when it comes to these two energy centers.
Now, why would these two opposing temperaments come together? Possibly the soul realizing they can learn from each other. Possibly to gain some of the good qualities from the other. The narcissist can learn from the empath to be more caring, understanding, loving, kind, to think of others first, to be generous and helpful. While the empath can learn healthy self-interest, healthy self-esteem, confidence, courage and to stand up for themselves. I don’t know if this was part of God’s plan but at first glance, it seems like a good idea. If only it was possible. If only it would work that way. The narcissist thinks they are perfect and superior to others; they don’t look at themselves or question their behavior; they don’t think they need to learn anything. For this to work the narcissist would have to be willing to take responsibility for their behavior and be open to learning and growing. This is most unlikely. A narcissist is incapable of personal growth. If the Universe planned for these two personalities to come together for this purpose, it really seems like a science experiment gone wrong! This partnership degrades into an abusive situation.
So how do you fix it? I have yet to hear of a positive resolution. This can be an extremely abusive relationship. If you are experiencing a narcissistic relationship and are in need of support, coaching and healing. Pranic healing and other therapies can help. Reach out to someone for support. The person that has the potential to learn the most from a relationship with a narcissist is the empath. My hope is that they learn to stand up for themselves and gain the strength, courage and confidence to break free from such a person and know they are worthy and deserving of so much more.